Mother refuses to straighten her daughter's curly hair.
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While many brides dream of a picture-perfect wedding day, some take their vision to extremes, especially when it comes to expectations for the bridal party.
Often, this means all bridesmaids are required to wear identical dresses, regardless of how unflattering or uncomfortable they may be. In other cases, brides dictate specific hair and makeup styles to ensure uniformity in wedding photos.
But one bride may have taken this obsession with visual consistency too far by asking that even the flower girls match perfectly, down to altering their natural features.
A concerned mother recently turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole” community for advice after her sister-in-law pressured her to straighten her 18-month-old daughter’s naturally curly hair for the wedding.
“My sister-in-law is mad at me because I refuse to straighten my 1.5-year-old’s curly hair so all the flower girls can match,” the mom wrote.
She pointed out that the bride knew about her daughter's curly hair when she asked her to be part of the wedding.
“She’s upset because my daughter’s hair forms tight ringlets. While it’s fairly long when wet, it looks like short baby curls when dry. It’s adorable, and I don’t see why I should change how she naturally looks just to fit someone else’s ideal wedding photo,” she added.
The mom also explained that her child is simply too young for heat styling, and she’s worried about the risk of burns or damage.
“I’ll style her hair nicely with a headband and use products to manage the curls, but I’m not straightening them,” she said firmly.
Seeking reassurance, she asked other Reddit users if she was in the wrong for standing her ground.
One commenter responded, “As a curly-haired person myself, absolutely do not do it. A) This request is ridiculous, especially for a toddler! B) Curly hair is beautiful. No one should feel pressured to change their natural hair to be ‘wedding appropriate.’”
Another user added, “This is beyond unreasonable. We’re talking about a baby’s hair! Even 10-year-olds shouldn’t be exposed to heat damage. Your sister-in-law needs to seriously rethink her priorities.”
Yet another chimed in, “As someone who’s unfortunately dealt with a ‘bridezilla’ in the family, this is classic unreasonable behaviour. No rational person would expect a toddler to undergo hair straightening for a wedding.”
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