There's so much to take into consideration when planning a wedding.
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Planning a wedding is often described as one of the most exciting times in a couple’s life, but let’s be honest, it’s also one of the most stressful.
From the moment the engagement ring is slipped on and the wedding date is set, couples immediately get stuck into planning their big day.
From finding the ideal wedding venue to finalising menus, couples strive for perfection.
And yet, after the confetti settles and the last slice of cake is eaten, many newlyweds find themselves looking back with a few “if onlys.”
Nick Bramer from Country House Weddings in England has seen his fair share of dream days.
Over the years, he’s worked with hundreds of couples, and with that experience comes valuable insight into what people often wish they’d done differently.
“After working with hundreds of couples over the years, you start to notice patterns in what people regret most,” explains Bramer.
“The good news is that most of these issues are completely preventable with a bit of forward planning.”
So, before you tie the knot, take a look at these five common regrets Bramer hears time and again and how you can avoid making the same mistakes.
Not hiring a videographer
This one comes up more than you might expect. Many couples skip the videographer to save on costs, only to regret it later on.
While having an album full of photographs is great, video captures other aspects of the day differently.
You can’t be everywhere at the same time on your day, but your videographer can capture moments for you that you’ll be able to watch later.
“I can't tell you how many couples come back to me months later wishing they'd booked a videographer,” says Bramer.
“Photos are beautiful, but there's something magical about hearing your vows again or watching your dad's speech. You can't put a price on those memories.”
A videographer can capture moments you miss.
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Overspending on flowers
We all love a beautiful floral display, but Bramer warns against blowing a massive portion of your budget on arrangements that guests may barely remember.
While flowers add elegance, they’re gone the next day, and that money could often be spent on more meaningful aspects of your celebration.
“Flowers are lovely, but they're gone the next day,” Bramer notes.
“I've seen couples spend thousands on centrepieces when simpler arrangements would have looked just as stunning. That money could go towards better photography or an extra course at dinner.”
Don't spend too much money on flower arrangements.
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Rushing the timeline
Wedding days tend to go by in a blur. Trying to pack too much into the schedule can turn what should be a joyful, flowing experience into a frenzied marathon.
Bramer stresses the importance of allowing time to breathe and be present.
“The biggest mistake is trying to fit everything in,” says Bramer. “Your wedding day should flow naturally. If you're constantly watching the clock, you're not present for your own celebration.”
Poor communication with vendors
As you get closer to the big day and stress levels rise, the last thing you need is a caterer showing up with the wrong menu or the DJ getting the playlist completely wrong.
Regular check-ins with suppliers can eliminate many of these headaches.
“Communication breakdowns cause more wedding day stress than anything else,” warns Bramer.
“A quick check-in with your vendors a week before makes sure everyone's on the same page.”
Overlooking guest comfort
While it’s natural to want your wedding to look beautiful, don’t forget that it also needs to feel good, especially for your guests.
From accessible bathrooms and shaded seating to entertainment for little ones, small details can make a big difference.
“Your guests' comfort should be a priority,” Bramer advises.
“If grandma can't hear the ceremony or kids are getting restless, it affects the whole atmosphere. Simple touches like providing blankets for outdoor events or having a quiet space for families make all the difference.”
Make sure that all your guests will be comfortable.
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