He also touched on the insensitivity and ignorance often displayed in social media comment sections.

“Another thing I’ve realised is that people do not understand the power of a digital footprint. You guys are very careless in people’s comment sections, and as a result, you end up being either homophobic or transphobic, all in the name of wanting to understand.”

His words struck a chord with many, with users expressing gratitude and empathy in the comments.

One user, @thando_553, wrote, “We learn every day. Thank you for educating us. 👏❤️.”

@Sibhekuza_SomkaNzima shared their own experience: “Thank you for the explanation. I also have leyo gynecomastia, and my brother on Saturday asked ukuthi kwenzekani with so much disgust, yhoo.”

These comments show how Phakwago’s openness is creating a safe space for others to share their stories and feel less alone.

The weight of a digital footprint

In the video’s closing moments, Phakwago delivered a powerful reminder about the long-term consequences of online behaviour. He warned that the insensitive comments people leave online could have real-world implications.

“Those people that you are making those comments to on social media are your future potential employers. I’m saying this because the majority of these comments come from young people who are in varsity.

"The power of a digital footprint is going to kick in when you go for an interview, and you ace that interview, but because of your homophobic and transphobic digital footprint, your counterpart candidates will be chosen instead of you,” he said.

His message rings true for almost every South African. Considering the high employment rate we face as a country.

Gynecomastia affects an estimated 30% to 70% of males at some point in their lives, with the highest prevalence occurring during puberty, middle age, and older adulthood, according to the Endocrine Society.

His words also underscore the importance of empathy in digital spaces. Social media has the power to connect us, but it can also be a place of harm if used irresponsibly.

The conversations sparked by Phakwago’s video go beyond gynecomastia. They touch on broader issues of body image, toxic masculinity, and the societal pressures that dictate what is considered “normal.”

In a world where men are often expected to conform to rigid standards of masculinity, Phakwago’s story is a powerful reminder that there’s no one-size-fits-all definition of what it means to be a man.

While gynecomastia is a common medical issue, it is often misunderstood and stigmatised. In some cases, men with gynecomastia face body shaming and social ridicule, which can lead to mental health struggles such as low self-esteem and anxiety.

Additionally, there is growing concern that transphobia affects individuals with gynecomastia, as some men experience discrimination due to misconceptions about gender identity and masculinity.

His message is particularly relevant to South Africans, given the country’s complex history and ongoing struggles with inequality and discrimination. In sharing his truth, Phakwago is contributing to a culture of openness and acceptance that is essential for progress.

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